[release-21.0] Use proper keyspace when updating the query graph of a reference DML (#17226)

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Description

This is a backport of #17226

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Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 67.51%. Comparing base (b2645cd) to head (1254d68).
Report is 1 commits behind head on release-21.0.

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+ Hits             169672   169721      +49     
+ Misses            81717    81668      -49     

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